How Your Past Affects Your Future Together-To some degree, we're all products of our environment and experiences. It is important to talk through your backgrounds because of transference, which is a term that means we transfer qualities and re-create dynamics from old relationships into new ones, and this is usually unconscious. Talking about them allows people to make more conscious, healthy choices and relate in healthier ways.
What's Your Biggest Fear?
It might not be an easy question, but it’s one that can get you right to the bottom of what makes someone tick. Marriage is about understanding—and not just understanding your hopes, dreams, and ambitions. It’s also about understanding fears, regrets, and struggle—especially in relation to marriage. Make sure that you’re asking the tough questions and your marriage will have a much deeper level of understanding.
There’s a lot of folks where they grew up in families where marriage was not a positive thing. Be able to have honest conversations around that. Nurture and be considerate of those fears and address them together.
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